While I’m Waiting

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

-1 Cor 13:7-

We set up this verse from the Bible as the foundation of our relationship because these words describe the setbacks, struggles, rewards and glory of waiting.

As a child, had you ever experienced seeing your dining table with chocolate cakes, ice creams, sweets and candies all set and ready? Did you ever feel the frustration of seeing a note from your parents telling you to wait for them before the first bite? Or do you recall the time you had to spend waiting under the shade of the tree just to unwrap that Christmas present? These things and so much more, we can all relate with that feeling of frustration and longing.

We know it’s more than cupcakes or presents. Every boy knows that when he likes her, he’ll chase her and that’s normal. Coming from an all-boy-school, I already heard a lot of ‘chasing’ stories back from 6th grade and I’ve been there, done that, got the t-shirt.

At the peak of what I think my restless and emotional ‘quest’, He found me. And unfortunately, I realized that I don’t have to do what the other boys were doing. I won’t be able to tell my son the story on how I got a girlfriend in secondary school.

He didn’t just find me; He taught me bit by bit until I learned and until I surrendered. In our walk together, He preserved me and in our journey, He led me. Not knowing He is slowly leading me to the love of my life. I didn’t understand then but it’ll be another stage of training which requires patience and faith. (Yes, my son, I never had a girlfriend in tertiary.) I describe those years of waiting as among the most formative years of my life. I learned that you have to withdraw affection in order to prove your sincerity and indeed in silence, God speaks.


“When you are caught at the mercy of waiting, make sure you won’t neglect what God must have been telling you-that’s a treasure yet to be unveiled right before your eyes. Yes it maybe worth more than what you’re waiting for.” -bannedartist 29-09-11

Just when the time was right, I saw the green light and I felt the tap. It surely was, and is still, a great partnership. How could she refuse if I learned from her Father? *insert batman grin here*

tumblr_lvrv060MHc1qkdi2lo1_500                        Not until I feel my Master’s tap will I make this real for you

This is my post in my own blog 4 years ago. It’s her birthday then but I have to stay on the sidelines

Today, since 2 years ago, our hearts are one in praying and waiting for that big day. And on that day we desire only one Name to be praised and lifted.

My heart is also in gratitude to those who are with us since day one. We thank God upon remembrance of you.


Flashback: Aug 07, 2013

It’s been almost 2 years and 4 months since I came to her revealing my prayer – my desire of having a family, a family that gives honor to whom honor is due and being her as the partner who my heart longs for. I remember that staggered look on her face while I did my first proposal. I can somehow analyze what a person thinks simply through his/her gestures but not the look of that kind. I didn’t know if she’s processing my words then and if I needed to back them up with some sort of ‘spiritual’ dogma but I knew that I must hold my ground.

I never experienced audible revelations like hearing a whisper of her name from nowhere and I never asked a sign of whoever comes out of that door first but I did have my set of principles. Yes, principles and not standards. I think standards focus on others- who I prefer they should be and what I think they should do or what I suppose they must have and that’s none of my business. I am more concerned about being the best of myself, build principles, and live them out. While I’m busy reading, studying and praying, there I noticed her, sometimes cheerful and sometimes sober.

A glimpse of her gave me a feeling that I thought what the knights of long ago felt when they have to win the heart of a maiden which requires battling and killing monsters, climbing mountains, etc. We don’t have monsters today other than those “Feeling Macho Men” flirting with women, no different from those “Brainy Men” winning women using their wits and disguise. No, I never killed one, YET. And yes, I never climbed a mountain other than those high cities with paved highways. But I chose a path. I believe men who walk with me along this path will agree that it requires strength of will and lots of self-denial- the character that is just appropriate for women such as her and her kind.

While others are lowering their grounds, she’s building hers. Picket fences are the norm but she has a solid high wall of principles. And that’s what made me stand up- and WAIT.

In less than 5 months from now we will be tying the knot. I’d like to think that we’re ready but the more I know then the more I realize that we can’t totally be. This thought makes me come back to where it all started- Grace.

-Melvin 041215



18 “There are three things that are too amazing for me,
four that I do not understand:
19 the way of an eagle in the sky,
the way of a snake on a rock,
the way of a ship on the high seas,
and the way of a man with a young woman.

Proverbs 30:18-19, New International Version (NIV)

Remembering October 2, 2015


Around this time, exactly two months ago, Melvin and I were in our house, together with our family, close relatives, and close friends, celebrating his proposal and our engagement. During that precious moment, my heart was full of joy and peace.

Let me take you back a few hours (and later, days) before the night of October 2, 2015.

It was an ordinary Friday – no special occasions – except that classes got cancelled due to bad weather and Melvin was in Tarlac because his new work hadn’t started yet. These situations made it possible for us to go to SM Clark, for a change.

I remember asking him what time he would pick me up that day. After lunch was the answer I expected but no, he said 10:00am. I was a bit surprised because it was early for our usual dates, but I agreed anyway, thinking that he would be leaving for Australia after several days for his training and that day would be an opportunity to spend some quality time. 🙂

So I started preparing and finished around 9:30am. He then informed me that he would arrive later than our agreed time, explaining that he had to wait for his sister and drop her off at the dentist. He picked me up at around 11:00am. (No issues, we don’t usually argue over matters of this kind. 🙂 )

In all fairness, I didn’t have any hint that there was a surprise planned for me. All the time we were in SM Clark I did not notice anything suspicious… not until we were heading back to Tarlac. My sister texted me specific details such as where she was going and that I should go home early because Mommy might get home earlier than all of us (which is a situation we always try to avoid. Hehe). Then just a few minutes after, Mommy texted me that she already got home, and she invited Melvin and I to have dinner at home. Again after a few minutes, Mommy texted me a long message, explaining that she went out for a while to assist a workmate but would be back for dinner and so we still had to come home and just wait for her. While on our way home, my sister kept updating me about her whereabouts and asking me where I was. Because of these, I started to think that something unusual was going on. I began to tell Melvin that my family members’ actions seemed unusual, like my mom who rarely sends long messages because she prefers calling, and my sister who rarely updates me when we’re away. Besides these, I still had many questions and to all of these, Melvin remained silent (which is just normal hehe).

As we were travelling home, something popped into my mind. Could this be the day that he’s going to propose? As we were getting closer to our house, my suspicion was getting stronger. When we finally got home, my hunch got confirmed (but I didn’t tell him). I saw my brother’s room brightly lit (which is unusual), and I saw flowers attached to our kitchen door. Ma-feeling na kung ma-feeling pero, I knew it. Hehe. But still I didn’t tell him that I knew it already.

The car stopped right in front of our gate, just like the way he normally does when he drops me home. Then, he suddenly asked me to get the box of the wrist watch he was wearing from the glove compartment of the car. I found that weird and so I pretended that I didn’t hear what he said. Because I didn’t move, he had no choice but to get it himself. So he got the box, opened it, and I was right! Hehe. Even though I already had an idea, I still didn’t know how to react. I was so happy, so nervous, so excited, all at the same time! He held the ring, and gave his speech (hehe), which I barely heard that moment because of my mixed emotions. But of course, I was able to process everything he said minutes after the magical moment. Hehe. I admire Melvin because of many things, but by far I admire him most for what he said during that night. He was very sincere and honest. I didn’t hear the usual proposal line “Will you marry me?” but I did hear a real proposal. A proposal of what he prays for and hopes to happen to his future and to ours. A proposal of what he is willing to give and do to make his hopes come true. A proposal of the specific plans he desires to make with me, if the Lord wills. His last line was a statement, telling me that the decision was mine to make, whether or not I was willing to accept and agree with his proposal. My answer was not yes. I answered, “syempre!” I went down the car, shivering because of mixed emotions and unbelief that everything was happening for real! As we entered the gate of our house, I was already expecting that something and some people were waiting for us inside. I was right. As I turned on the lights, happy people excitedly greeted and congratulated us! I saw my cousins, siblings, and close church friends. I felt so overjoyed that I got teary-eyed, but then people started coming out of our rooms, one by one. Funny, pero nahiya akong umiyak dahil ang dami palang tao. Hehe. I was so surprised to see his parents, relatives, my relatives, and our church friends who came to celebrate with us. It was an instant engagement dinner!

We enjoyed the fellowship that night and I had fun discovering all their planning and preparations. I really appreciated every little detail revealed to me, just like the story behind the pink lemonade (Melvin and his sister Krisa had gone to different supermarkets in Metro Manila just to find pink lemonade! They found one at SM Megamall, with only two containers left!). I discovered how they had been carefully preparing the past days, mindful that I won’t have any single hint about their plans. They told me how problematic they had become when my work got cancelled that day due to bad weather, because it meant that I would be staying home the whole day. To get rid of me, Melvin scheduled our date as early as 10:00am but picked me up at 11:00am because he had to drop his sisters at our church friend’s house to make some preparations. I had no idea that Ate Ems was all the while waiting for me to leave home so she could prepare lunch for our church friends who would be arriving to start the preparations. While we were at SM Clark, there were people at home busy preparing and excitedly waiting. My heart melted knowing that there were people willing to do those things for me, for us.

The proposal and engagement celebration was a glimpse of how God worked in our relationship. We’re not that romantic, but we are sincere. We’re not alone in our relationship, but we have a community guiding and supporting us. Our relationship is one of the many displays of God’s grace in our lives.


I will take you back a few days before the night of October 2, 2015 in my next post. Stay tuned! 🙂


December 2, 2015 | 10:13PM



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